I want to take a moment to talk to the mothers and fathers out there. I think it is time we all take a step back and realize instead of trying to be the “cool” parents it is time we all need to step up and become real parents.
I notice there is a new trend of people who are trying to be their kid’s best friends. While this is all cool and seems good, we need to realize that kids aren’t experienced in the world that they live in. Most still have that it won’t happen to me attitude. While back in the 80’s when I grew up the worst thing we had to worry about was the occasional kidnapping, or maybe getting drunk. Now there are so many levels of predators and danger out there. We have kids getting lured into doing things on so many levels of social media as Facebook, Instagram, KIK, Twitter, Periscope, and snap chat. With the new norm of every kid having a cell phone ops I mean Smart Phone.
I have even seen 12-14 year olds on this new platform Periscope getting high and trying to be quiet because their parents are sleeping in the other room. Are we this oblivious to what our children are actually doing?
Do you actually know what your kids are doing on those pocket computers? Do you know who they are communicating with? Do you know what they are really doing when they tell you they are out with their friends? Are they really out with their friends? Are they meeting some 40 year old pervert at the movies? Are they sneaking away to some party to get drunk, or high, or at some Rainbow party? I just heard about this one had to Google it myself. I mean kids having basically sex orgies starting at 10, 11, and 12. Am I the only one who is starting to think what we can do to change this?
I know when we were growing up the main thing was going to get drunk. Heck I even remember my parents telling me stories of how they used to get drunk on the weekends. Parting with their friends, drag racing on the back roads, or going to a make out point. Times have defiantly changed.
Now there are designer drugs, the internet and a bunch of old guys running around with Viagra chasing young girls. Men trolling on the internet looking for girls they can lure into sending naughty pictures, and doing things that we don’t even want to think about. Or trying to lure your kids into doing things like joining ISIS, or some other cult. Can you imagine if Manson would have had access to the internet? Think about it for a minute.
So should kids have a facebook page, or social media accounts? Should they have smart phones? Should we be watching them closer, maybe becoming a bigger part of their lives? Maybe we need to install tracking devices? Maybe spy programs to watch their activities? I am going to say if they are College age or younger YES!
I am not saying you have to monitor them every day once they get to 16 or 18, but it is nice to have a way to go and find out what might have gone wrong in their lives if something should happen. How many teens commit suicide, come up missing, raped or killed every single year?
I am seeing a new trend as parents now are posting pictures of their kids everywhere as well. From Facebook, twitter, Instagram, to even on their dating profiles on Match.com, or OK Cupid. Really are we so oblivious to the Evil that is lurking everywhere in this world? What about any statistic of children who were victims by a person their parent may have dated from an online dating site?
As I started this article I was going to focus on just kids and social media and then I got started researching and reading that this isn’t just a problem anymore it is an epidemic. I mean really pre-teens having sex parties, getting high and drunk at 11 and 12. What are they going to have left to experience if they rush thru everything before they are 17?
I am going to make some suggestions, and hope more parents are willing to think a little bit more before they buy their 11 year old a new IPHONE for Christmas. Maybe just maybe we can help keep your kids safe for a little while longer.
Should a kid have a cell phone? This is a huge question that parents face now a days. Do they really need one or are you just trying to be the cool parent? Ask yourself this question. Without one will they survive ok? If you do come to a conclusion they do need one at a younger age, I understand every single family situation is a case by case basis. But opt to get them a cheap flip phone with a limited text plan, most carrier allow you to set up a phone with restricted access and limited phone numbers they can reach. Monitoring isn’t a bad idea in this crazy world we live in. It is one way to keep your child from becoming exposed to things they aren’t old enough to understand.
Dose your child need their own email account? Honestly I would set up a Family email account up till around the age of 16. Just because you should know what is going on in their lives and should want to. If you’re not careful this is a gateway to a whole world that once it is opened up it becomes hard to close the door on. Heck I didn’t even have an email account till I was like 19 and I survived no problem.
Should your child have social media accounts? I am going to say under 16 years of age NO. And at age 16 you should be monitoring it with access or spy programs. And maybe it would be ok to open a family account that you can access and monitor. Even with the security features on facebook there are predators out there who are trying to find ways to lure young unsuspecting kids into a dangerous world.
Try to get to know who your kids are hanging around, let them invite their friends over to your house. My parents used to insist on hosting when we used to hang out in our neighborhood growing up. I understand why now. Don’t be afraid to check up on your younger ones. If they are going to a movie maybe you should go too. I realize that trust is something you need to form but come on now we all were kids once who told an occasional lie to our parents about what we were doing or where we were going to be, but today it is a different world. Remember Kidnapping has become a multi Trillion dollar industry. It is a shame but it is the harsh reality of the world we live in today.
I personally like Web watcher for a spyware program (around $100) per device but it allows you to watch in real time, sends email updates to you, and can be used to monitor social media accounts and has a key logger so you can see exactly what your kids are emailing and texting on their phone or computer. It runs in the background and they can’t shut it off. I realize they require a yearly subscription to your license but you can log in anywhere and check in on your kid’s phone, laptop, IPad etc. It will help you see what is really going on in their lives that you might not other wise realize till it is too late.
I know there are some other cheaper ones out there but at the end of the day what is your kid’s life really worth? Can you put a price on them? Child/family safety is huge in my book, keeping your family safe is something I have a passion for and about. I got into VIP Security to make a difference.
Look for more safety tips to come on how to help keep you and your family safe from the evil that is lurking out there.